What is your
preferred learning style? Visual? Auditory? Experiential (aka hands-on)?
you may think your style is, how humans really learn anything is from
observing another person - usually an authority figure or someone deemed more
popular and knowledgeable - or, as we used to say when I was growing up:
“Monkey see, monkey do.”
No matter what
behaviour or action a person exhibits, they have seen another person do the
same thing at least once. Which is why
you have to be so careful around young children as they notice everything and
teachers, and community members express concern about children and peer
pressure - and it is a valid concern - however, I believe that peer pressure is
much worse for adults, because we feel we are immune due to our maturity.
But think about
this for a moment...if we learn our behaviour and actions predominately from
observing those around us - what are we observing and then acting out?
you...how many of the people you interact with daily have similar habits? The habits can be benign such as stopping for
take-out coffee on the way to work, or more serious such as speeding down the
highway to keep up with the traffic.
Bad news sells
and our electronic devices bombard us 24/7 with bad news, which is perpetuated
over and over and over again. Watch the
news on Monday evening and you’ll probably see the same stories on Friday’s news. And that repeated exposure just reinforces
the legitimacy of the behaviours - even illegal ones - in our psyches.
really wants to end wars, stop violent crimes, curb drunk driving, decrease
drug usage, and other behaviours that are detrimental to health and life, then
education, signage, and news stories that give perpetrators their 5 minute
claim to fame aren't going to stop anything.
People need to
see, on a consistent basis, people showing different behaviours and
actions. It is the only way that changes
can be made.
Peer pressure isn’t all bad, it can be used for good, and when it is,
then we truly see great things happen in and around us.
Mother’s Day is
coming soon.While our mothers bring us physically
into this world, each and everyone of us is then responsible for birthing
ourselves – through our personalities, choices, contributions, and how we
respond to what goes on inside and outside of us - throughout our lives.
ultimately doesn't matter how dysfunctional your family may have been, and we
all know some families can be really dysfunctional, you are your most
important and loving parent.
parents - who are doing the best they can from where they are in their
particular life journeys - you are your very own constant and true companion.
While alive, you can never abandon yourself physically nor emotionally, so it
is impossible to let yourself down.
What we think
comes to us from others in our lives - our parents, family members, teachers,
clergy, coaches, and friends - really comes from deep inside our own hearts.
You are the
only one who sees, and lives, the world from behind your eyes, and from the
perspective of your heart, and thus you are the only one who knows you, and
what you really need, best.
We are the only
ones who can, and do, provide ourselves with self-esteem. We
believe we are capable of accomplishing all of our dreams and the prodding to
go for it, to stretch and grow, comes from within. Our best and most honest
encouragement really comes from ourselves, no one else.And if you want to experience true
unconditional love, just look inside your heart.
Now, if you
don't happen to feel or believe any of the above, it may be because the voices
of others are drowning out your heart’s voice.If the people in our lives are not be listening to their hearts when
they interact with us, they will tend to do more harm than good.
I’m not saying
we don’t need other people, because we do.The various people we associate with are not only mirrors that reflect
back our beliefs to us, but they are an excellent avenue to remind us of our
heart’s truths that we may have temporarily forgotten.
You can be assured you always have someone who loves you, who is in your
corner, no matter what happens in life...yourself!