Beth's Ponderings Do you trust yourself? No...really, do you? Interestingly, until you fully and completely trust yourself, you will end up trusting the wrong people, and thus won’t be able to trust the right ones. And your choices will end up creating more headaches and hassle for you in the long run. I’m sure we can all think of a situation (or a dozen!) when we knew what we should have done, what choice we should have made, but we didn’t do it. Now, we could, and probably did, come up with numerous reasons (aka justifications) for why we did what we knew in our hearts and minds was not the right choice. Reasons such as:
I was told to do it this way.
This is how everyone else does it.
It only affects/hurts me and no one else.
I was scared I’d make a mistake.
I had no choice.
Yet, while we justify our choices after the fact, we knew deep in our beings before we even made the choice what we should do, and we know immediately after making the choice whether we made a good one or not. Rarely do we admit that we didn’t trust ourselves. Now if we only second-guessed ourselves once in a blue moon that would be fine. Unfortunately, we seem to do it all too often, and many times a day. It doesn't matter if the choice is a routine one, or a major life-altering one, each time you second-guess yourself, and don’t trust what you know to be true for you, you show the world and your heart that you don’t trust yourself. And you can say you trust yourself till your blue in the face, but the real test is by looking at your life and body. How smooth is your life running? How much drama is in your life? How healthy are you? How peaceful are you? You only make mistakes and wrong choices when you don’t trust yourself fully and completely.
Beth's Ponderings I tend to be an “out of sight, out of mind” gal. If there is something I have to do, it has to be in plain sight - constantly - till I do it. As soon as it’s done, it can be put away and forgotten. As such, I tend to have a lot of to-do’s around my desk and room, in various states of progress. My computer will have umpteen files and websites open all at the same time so I can deal with what needs dealt with, and, not forget what I haven’t gotten to yet. If I have to remember to take something with me somewhere, it needs to be visible by the door or I walk out without it. A list doesn’t work for me as I have to be able to actually “see” the form, or the email, or the instructions, or the website, or the file, or the box, or the book, or whatever it is that I need to do something about. While it can seem overwhelming on occasion, as I can literally be completely surrounded by work, I am able to relax knowing that everything I need to deal with is in sight and won’t be overlooked. I’m able to then see, at a glance, the most important tasks and get them done. So, try and imagine how I felt when I recently opened a box of cross-stitch projects, that were boxed up in 2004 when our house was getting painted, and discovered some important papers had been tossed on top before I closed the box. As our painting situation ended up becoming quite an ordeal that wasn’t finished for many months, the box was untouched for years, as I dealt with other things. The good news, my life didn’t fall apart because I failed to deal with the papers. In fact, losing the papers had no effect on my life, and probably would have had none even if I’d dealt with them at the time. To often we race around, spending most of our time and energy, dealing with things that seem so urgent and important, only to find out later that they really weren’t important at all in the big picture of our lives. “The only way you can truly test whether something is wildly important is to not do it – and see what happens. If the sky falls, then clearly it was important. If it doesn't, Then it wasn't.” - Fergus O'Connell Beth Read the complete issue of The Chautauquahere. Contact The Chautauqua via email: firstname.lastname@example.org
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