I’m sure you’ve
heard, as I have, that it is better to give than to receive.
Yet, if there is no
one, or nothing, to receive, then the giver isn’t really giving.
Contrary to how we
usually view the process, the two actions are not two separate, and completely
opposite actions, but two expressions of the exact same action.
For, when the giver
gives, and the receiver receives, the receiver also gives and the giver
Thus, you would
think that giving and receiving would come easily and naturally to us all.Unfortunately, while we are born with that
ability, it seems to lessen as we grow and mature.
Because of society’s
bias towards giving being better, we are taught to give endlessly, in a variety
of ways, even to people - or especially to people - who do not want to receive
what we are giving.And, since the other
party doesn’t really receive what we give, we haven’t really given anything,
nor have we been able to receive anything, so must then try to give more and
more and more, until we are depleted physically, mentally, and emotionally.
But, the secret to
real giving and receiving, is that nothing is depleted, or lost, in the
exchange.It is an “exchange,” something
given and something received, every time, by both parties.
If asked, most of
us would say we are pretty good givers and receivers, effectively balancing the
two.So, here’s a question for you...what
is your reaction when someone compliments you?Do you say a simple “thank you” (truly receiving) or do you brush it off
(rejecting)?When someone thanks you for
something do you say a sincere “you’re welcome” (truly receiving) or do you
brush it off by saying it was nothing or not important (rejecting)?Or, we can test this in an even easier manner
- how deep is your normal inhalation?The breath never lies, so unless you are regularly breathing in full,
deep inhalations, you aren’t really open to receiving, and thus, not truly
As we tend to
ignore ourselves, start fully giving and receiving with yourself, and then
share with others.
I’m sure you’ve
heard the expression “think outside the box,” and may have even been challenged
to do just that in a job or organizational setting, or maybe even in your
How successful were
you in that endeavour, really?
While we can all
benefit from getting out of our various “ruts” - whatever form they may appear
in, getting “out of the box” isn’t beneficial to us at all.We’d be further ahead to crawl deeper into
A panorama view
takes our breath away at its majestic beauty, and knowing the big picture,
North Star, or “forest,” will help us to navigate, but to really see things
differently and move forward in creative ways we need to limit our view
Think about it, it
isn’t the forest that moves you as much as the tiny drop of dew glistening on
one individual little leaf on one tree.In
other words, it is the things right immediately in front of us, things that we
can touch, rather than what’s in our view, yet completely out of reach.
photographers know that it isn’t what is OUTSIDE the frame that creates the
power of the picture...it is what is inside the frame.The frame provides a limit, or boundary, yet
at the same time it provides endless freedom as you can focus on whatever you
want within that frame, and what you choose to focus on will achieve importance.
The best writers,
speakers, and other creative types also apply this principle.They don’t tell you everything they know, or
want to share, they limit it down to one thought or theme, increasing its
The inventions that
have had the greatest impact on our lives have been items that dealt with
processes we use every day, and objects we hold in our hands.
In order to make
changes and bring something new to your organization, job, or life, you just
need to look at what is immediately around you and decide what one item, or
area, you want to focus on.By bringing
your focus down to the tangible and visible, instead of trying to create
something new out of the nebulous, you will be able to create something lasting,
memorable, and more than likely more applicable to your situation, than
anything you’ll find in the vast “outside.”